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A Question of Context

11/11/2014

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Good morning, Readers!

First, can we all take a minute to remember the diggers who sacrificed their lives, their futures and their sanity for our right to self-determination?  One minute.  That's all I'm asking.  Just bow your head, close your eyes and try.

....

Now that minute is over, use another one to reflect on how fortunate it is that you are not required to pick up a gun to defend democracy.  All you have to do is exercise your right to vote.  That is how you keep winning the war, and that his how you continue to remember and honour them.

Lest we forget.
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Image from Facebook. Click for link.

Feel sufficiently reverent?  Good.  I'm about to break the mood with a rant.

Yesterday I received an email from a person I know from another walk of life regarding an image I had put on my Facebook Page.  This image in question it this one:
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It's something a character of mine says to her daughter in one of the short stories contained in The Dying God & Other Stories.  I think the short story in question is Lady of Shadow, though I honestly don't remember it that well.  I'm quite fond of this quote, actually.  It has the ring of an older-than-time nugget of wisdom that is oft repeated between old women doling out sage advice to their youngsters.

Let just preface this exchange be saying that this man and I do not see eye to eye on many issues at all.  I am a staunch feminist, and do not care to hide the fact.  He is a self-identified MRA (Men's Rights Activist).  Most of you familiar with MRAs probably don't need to be told why we don't see eye to eye.  Don't get me wrong, he's actually quite lovely in person, but we've had bitter, bitter arguments about things that still raise my blood pressure just thinking about.

In any case, he requested this of me:
I'm just wondering can you tell me a bit more about the meaning and what your motivations were for writing it etc.

When you have some time of course.
Given the argumentative nature of our online discourse, I was preparing for another fight about wealth and gender expectations; something I just didn't have the time or energy for at present.  He did ask a legitimate question, and I had a couple of minutes to spare before I launched into one of my various projects, so I replied:
It's just a line spoken by a character in one of the short stories I wrote for the anthology 'The Dying God & Other Stories.'
To which he replied:
Do I have to read the book to understand why the character spoke it? lol
Sigh.

Dear whomever wishes to know, the answer to this question is always "Yes."  It is an astoundingly large "Yes" written in flames across the night sky.  It is a flashing neon "Yes" in an otherwise colourless world.  Yes.  Yes.  Yes.

I really don't mind answering questions from my readers.  At all.  But the catch here is that they are my readers.  It is a colossal waste of time for me to go through and explain something when there is an explanation already written - with context and everything - waiting for people to read.  Reading the story will generally give one all the context one needs to understand anything quoted from it.

I was very blunt in explaining that to him, I'm afraid.  It was literally two sentences long, with the first sentence being - you guessed it - "Yes."  I'm not proud of that, but by this point in the conversation, I really had to get to work.

He immediately responded with:
Maybe when you have some free time? 
No rush of course....

I'm so horrible.... I probably only have read maybe 6 books in my life and most of them I read between the lines
Sigh.

It must seem really innocuous to the outside eye.  What's the problem?  He's just asking for some clarification.  And I understand this... to a degree.  However, it becomes a problem when I have very little free time, and the free time I do have would be better served answering far more legitimate questions from readers or, you know, actually writing.  It becomes a problem when my time is of so little worth to others that they think it's all right to demand I explain something that already has an explanation.

The best I can do is refer people to the source material.  If they refuse to read the source material, it ceases to be my problem.  The reason they refuse is not my concern.

I wrote back saying as much:
I really appreciate that you are interested in how I think and why, but I really don't have time to explain everything I write to various people. Nor am I bound by what my characters say (I'm a writer. I am not the characters I write).
If you have time to read any lengthy explanation I send you, you have time to read the book (or the short story in question. It's been over five years since I wrote the anthology, but I believe the story you're looking for with this quote is 'Lady of Shadow').
I, however, don't have time. I am really, really busy.
Luckily, because the person in question is actually quite nice in person, he backed down after that and didn't make any more requests.  I'm not sure he understood, exactly, but at least he backed off a bit.

A big issue here is that I am not the characters I write.  If I was, that would make for a very boring book.  All the characters would be fiercely opinionated but wildly introverted young women who want children but are less sure about securing themselves a husband.

There seems to be a lot of conflation between authors and their characters.  I'm pretty sure George R.R. Martin is not a psychic child sitting in the roots of a tree, nor is he an honourable man who ultimately is beheaded.  I'm also quite certain he is not a enormous but kind-hearted imbecile who only knows how to say his own name.  I've seen him in interviews.  He utters complete sentences and everything.

Likewise, I am not the young mother who says this quote to her daughter.  Nor am I the horrible man who kills said young mother, or the slaver who sells her daughter.  I am the woman who writes about these characters.  I am not these characters.

My real complaint here is exactly what I said.  If anyone has time to read a lengthy explanation that I send about anything in my story, they have time to read the said story.  If they have read the story and require clarification, that's another matter entirely.  I'll happily clarify anything, with the caveat that I am not the characters I write, so that people may better understand character motives or the circumstances or something.

I know it seems harsh, and also seems in direct conflict with my desire to be the kind of author who is there for her readership.  My desire for that hasn't changed.  But it is important that I am able to use the time I have to do what I'm supposed to to: write my stories.

Let me put it this way, I'm paid to write (in a round about way; I write a story, I put it out in the world, people buy story, I get paid).  Answering questions is an extra activity; one that sucks time away from the things I should be doing.  I have to be very careful about which questions to answer and which to not.  I try to answer all questions as best I can, and sometimes the best thing I can do is answer with, "Read the story."

I know there is a profound debate surrounding authors and what they do in the face of experiences like these.  No doubt, trying to explain my position here will result in some backlash from people who feel entitled to another's time for any reason whatsoever.  And I will also say that I really do enjoy connecting with my readers.  I've had some wonderful conversations in person about my stories.  I can happily discuss themes with people, or listen to their theories about my stories (they've often spotting things in my stories that I was completely ignorant of until they mention it).

But I am setting boundaries.  I can't spend my time giving out explanations for things that are already explained.  Sometimes, my answer can only be, "Read the story."

I guess I'm asking for people to respect my time; anyone's time, really.  Do feel free to ask, but also know that sometimes you won't get the answer you want in the manner you want.  And, to be honest, nor are you entitled to it.

An author's primary task is to write.  Let's ignore the fact that most writers also hold down full-time jobs, must have time to buy, prepare and eat food, take some time for personal hygiene and self care like exercise, as well as sleep and, if they're really lucky, have some time to hang out with friends.

If they do more than write for their readership, please understand that it is entirely at their discretion, and that said readership is very, very lucky that they care so much about them.

I do care; very much.  But time is so very precious.  Please respect that.

Right... now that I've made everyone angry and defensive, I'm off to hide from the world a while...

Ciao!
2 Comments
Susan
11/11/2014 07:06:44 am

Good afternoon!

So I read this post and I thought to myself that I'm actually not angry with you. I'll explain why.

A couple of years ago I was self employed in a different capacity than I am in now. (Currently subcontractor. Back then I was a licenced insurance agent). One of the things our Vice President said was something akin to "You are not working if you are in meetings. You are not working if you are talking to people making a connection. You are not working if you are doing paperwork. You are *only* working when you are sitting at the clients table, assisting them with their financial well being". In essence what he was saying was, while the making the connections and doing the paperwork are part of the work process, they are not the things that count as official work. For us, that meant selling the insurance, investing their money properly, etc.. For a writer, that means writing! Therefore, I completely understand.

I don't believe you were wrong in telling this man to read the book. You had a valid point. You weren't being malicious in any way. You were being polite by giving him an answer. Hopefully the man doesn't take what you said with any ill will because that wasn't the intent behind the idea. (there was the legal speak appearing...)

Hurrah!

Now I'm going to vaguely be paralegal-like and do an assignment that's due before tomorrow.

Keep on writing!

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S.M. Carrière link
11/11/2014 08:06:53 am

Well, I'm glad you understand anyway. I have read many a thread where people don't, and authors are flayed alive for having the audacity to point out that they don't have the time/the information can easily be found elsewhere and more easily than asking said author.

It's a tough line to walk, really.

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