a) Parting is a difficult thing to bear. Perhaps you could send a representative of yours with us instead, and neither you nor your wife would have cause to grieve.
b) We could use all the warriors we can get. The Lady Eilir is welcome to join us and both of you will be spared the grief of absence.
c) It is wise to have a regent who would rule well. Perhaps it would be best for your people if Lady Eilir stayed. She is clearly a wise a capable regent.
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